Dear Pastor,

I am a 34-year-old businessman. I got myself into a problem. I love my wife. She is an amazing woman. My wife and I have been married for seven years, but I was getting bored with our love life. I decided to look into swinging. I found a decent couple. The wife was good looking and I was attracted to her. Her husband was average. My wife was hurt and sceptic, but after 11 months of persuading her into doing it, she finally agreed out of frustration.

We met at a hotel in separate rooms but engaged later on. Everything was going great until I got a good look at the other man. He was balding, with a small belly, but the thing which got to me the most was that his organ was a lot bigger than mine. I had to watch my wife have sex with him for almost two hours.

Pastor, she was more alive than I had ever seen her in a long while. Her moans/groans really got to me and affected my performance with the other woman.

Now, I can't help but feel really jealous. I feel like divorcing her. I know I forced her into this but it feels like a betrayal. Jesus, I feel sick! I can't even look at her the same way.

Can you offer some suggestions on how to fix this?

Wife Swapper

Dear Wife Swapper,

You have behaved like a fool. You wanted to spice up your relationship, so you suggested to your wife that both of you should be engaged in swapping. She did not want to do so but you insisted. After she agreed and was engaged in the act, you realised that your penis couldn't be compared to the size of the man who was "working" your wife.

scorpion

You could not even manage the man's wife. Now you are talking nonsense about wanting to divorce your wife. What has she done? She reluctantly did exactly what you wanted her to do. You can't blame her for enjoying it. You gave the man permission to have sex with your wife. You wanted to swing and it has stung you like a scorpion.

I cannot encourage you to divorce your wife, but I can understand why you cannot look at her. You are ashamed of yourself. What I would suggest is that both of you see a psychologist for professional help. I can tell you that even if you were to divorce her, you would have to ask each other for forgiveness for engaging in such immoral behaviour.

Pastor