Dear Pastor,

I am having a relationship with a man. I can say that I am deeply in love with him. We fell in love from the first time we met and we talked every day. He told me that he was single and that he did not have anybody in his life. But after a few months, I found out that he was lying to me. He was living with a woman. This man led me on in every way. He caused me to fall in love with him.

As soon as I found out that he lied to me, I ended the relationship. I am so ashamed of what I have allowed him to do to me. Now he is saying that he is sorry for not telling me the truth but he would like to have a second chance. Because I love him so much, I decided I would give him a second chance. I thought that he would leave the woman, but he is still with her and he kept lying every day. He never took me to where he was living.

I will never allow him to get me pregnant, but that is what he is trying hard to do. Whenever we are having sex, he doesn't want to use the condom. But I am one step ahead of him because I am on the pill. He does not know that I am on the pill and behave as if I do not know that his children's mother and himself were still living together.

I understand that she knows about me and she has kicked him out because the house is hers. I am so confused. I don't know what to do because I am still in love with him. I am begging you please give me your advice.

Deceived

Dear Deceived,

Why are you still with this man? When you found out that he lied to you about his status, you ended the relationship with him. But you returned to him after he pretended that he was sorry for not speaking the truth. You were fooled by his crocodile tears.

The other woman with whom he was living has put him out. She is a wise woman. Aren't you glad to know that he is free? You say that you are still in love with him. I am suggesting to you that for your own good, you too should kick him out of your life. Please do so today. Turn your life around. If you don't, this man will drag you down. He is not a person you should be sorry for. He is a deceiver, and a user of women.

Pastor