Dear Pastor,

I am 19 years old. I have two boyfriends and I had sex with the two of them in one week: one on Monday and the other on Wednesday. I am pregnant and I don't know which one got me pregnant. But I told both of them that I am pregnant and both of them say that they will take care of the baby.

One of them is a mechanic and I go by his workplace every Friday and get money from him. The other one is a bus driver and he has to pass my home, so he would stop by and give me my money. My mother knows him but she doesn't know the other guy. I told my mother that I might be pregnant. She didn't say anything. She thinks that it is for the guy who is driving the bus but I am not sure about that. The one who is a mechanic gives me more money and I like him more.

V.M.

Dear V.M.,

You are playing a dangerous game. At 19 years old you have two men in your life and both of them believe that you are their intimate girlfriend. Both of them have been having sex with you and both have been giving you money. Aren't you afraid that they will find out what you are doing? The child you are carrying can't be for the both of them. So it won't be long from now that they will find out your trickery. I hope that they will not try to hurt you in any way.

As soon as you have your baby, try to determine who is the father by having them do DNA tests. But in the meantime, you may tell each guy that you had intercourse with the other and you are sorry for what has happened and you are not sure which one got you pregnant. Having done that, you may beg them to continue to help you prepare for the baby. It is better for each of them to have the idea now that the child may or may not be his.

Pastor