Dear Pastor,

I am writing about a nurse girl who is sleeping with my man. Whenever she leaves work, she refuses to go to her yard. She goes straight to my man's house. I went to his house to see him and saw her there. When I enquired what she was doing there, my boyfriend told me she was spending the night because lives far away and she had to get back to work the next day. I told him I was going to stay but he refused. He said he did not want two women in the house at one time.

I told him I would return the following day. I did not. I went two days after and saw her there again. I went to the hospital gate to wait for her, to talk to her, but she called my boyfriend when she saw me. He came and told me to go home, otherwise he would get himself into trouble. I left but this thing is not finished because I am not giving up my boyfriend. He takes very good care of me. Not many men will take a woman who has five children and take care of her.

I hope this girl sees my letter and leave my man alone. You may ask why the man is not leaving her alone. I know why, it is because she is doing what he likes and I am not always willing to allow him to do it, or to do it to him.

A.C

Dear A.C.,

I suggest that you stop going to this man's house. It is evident he is having a relationship with the nurse. He has not stopped giving you money. He is still assisting, but don't try to fight to keep this relationship going or to attack his new girlfriend.

It is wrong for you to go to her workplace. Her workplace has nothing to do with the relationship she is having with the man. I doubt he is going to give up this young woman, but you should try to ascertain from him whether he has chosen her over you. Don't be surprised if he tells you no, and that he would like to keep both of you as lovers. It would be up to you to stay or leave. It does not seem, from the tone of your letter, you are going anywhere. If you make war, it is likely he is going to leave you.

Pastor