Dear Pastor,

My response to your question whether a woman should fight over a man is simply, no. I do not believe a woman should fight over a man because even if that woman claims that the man is hers, some of the times her man disowns her right in her presence. I think if a woman has to fight for a man, it's a sign of insecurity.

I was married and, as a matter of fact, I am still married because we are separated, but not by divorce. Pastor, he had always been a womaniser, even to the point of contracting STD and passing it on to me. I found out who he contracted the disease from and confronted her. We had an argument. We never really fought, but after the argument I decided to break off the relationship with him.

My friend's husband had a woman just the same and, one night, she caught the both of them together and, Pastor, when I thought the wife would beat the sweetheart, she held on to the husband and gave him some punches in his face. She tore off his shirt and, while he was getting his beating, the sweetheart ran like a thief. It was the first time I saw a woman beat a man so badly and he never even tried hitting her back.

I suppose after that the woman never thought about having another married man. Since that day, I have never seen my friend with a happy face again. I guess she remains embarrassed for beating her husband, but he deserved it and he learnt his lesson.

M.K

Dear M.K.,

Please suggest to your friend that her husband and herself should go to see a family counsellor for professional help. This type of relationship may take some time to get back to its normal stage, but it can, with help. So, please encourage her to make appointments to go through a series of counselling with a family counsellor.

Pastor