Dear Pastor,

I have a big problem with my baby- mother. She wants me to have oral sex with her and I don't want to. She packed up her belongings and left. What is bothering me now is, she doesn't want me to visit my children. I feel like killing myself because I cannot see my children. I cannot live without seeing them. Please, tell me what to do. I feel like giving up.

Father,

Dear Father.

Please do not give up. Your children's mother and yourself are not together. The reason you have given may sound strange to some people, but I have known couples who have separated and got divorced over this matter of oral sex.

Concerning your children, you have a right to see them and your children's mother should not deny you that right. Therefore, I must encourage you to take the matter to the Family Court. I am absolutely sure the judge will give you visiting rights. Just tell the judge the truth.

Please do not yield to the temptation to hurt your child's mother or yourself.

Pastor