Dear Pastor,

This is the second time I am writing to you. The first time I wrote to you I was a teenager, now I am 26 years old and married. I listen to your show every night. My husband and I are Christians. We do not have children. We have been married for two years. My husband is in his 40's. He has some strange habits. Some of them I like and some I don't. For example, he likes us to shower together. That I like because after shower we dry each other and he would powder me all over and lift me unto the bed and then lick my skin all over. But then during love making he would roll his tongue and push it into my nostrils and he would do that for a long time. It is tickling and I have got to enjoy it but I am sure that it is not hygienic. And then he would kiss me. I told him that he should kiss me before he put his tongue into my nostrils but that goes on deaf ears.

It is hard to push him away because I love him so much. I know my husband could get any woman and I don't want to lose him by objecting to what he enjoys doing. When we first got married and he introduced oral sex to me I told him I don't want to do that, but now he doesn't have to ask me for it, I volunteer. If I could have got pregnant by doing oral sex it would have happened because most times we do that than have sexual intercourse.

He reads your column everyday so he will see this letter. I am not going to tell him I wrote to you for your opinion. Keep up the good work. Please don't mention my name.

P

Dear P,

Some couples enjoy showering together and going straight to bed. They powder each other and use fruits, ice cream, etc., during foreplay. It is unwise, however, for foreign matters to be put into a woman's vagina because it may cause infections. Nevertheless, it is the practice of some couples to do so.

Your husband loves to lick you all over. He enjoys playing with your body. However, I am sure that it is not wholesome for him to put his tongue in your nostrils as a part of foreplay. Nevertheless I want you to understand that it is not unusual for a man to practice that sort of foreplay. Lots of men have done so. Couples experiment by doing weird things and it is unlikely that your husband will stop.

Some couples are always experimenting. They call that spicing up the relationship. I would not recommend this type of lovemaking but I am not willing to condemn couples who enjoy doing weird things. Let me hope that you will become pregnant very soon. I hope that your husband and yourself have been to see a doctor.

Pastor