Once upon a time, marriages were arranged by parents while their children were young and when they grew up and got married, their duty was to family and producing children soon after marriage.

Today, in this side of the world, individuals get to choose their partners for whatever reason. People get married for love, money, even visas. As a matter of fact there are some persons who have chosen not to get married at all, even to stay single all together.

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Everyone has their own lives and make their own money and enjoy their independence. So some persons become serial single people. What is a serial single? This is a person who is strong on their own, that being in a relationship is not really appealing, or difficult. A serial single person enjoys their own company and does not mind engaging in activities by himself/herself. How do you know if you are a serial single person?

Answer yes or no to the following:

1. Are you comfortable having dinner by yourself in restaurants?

2. Have you ever been to the movies alone?

3. Do you feel bored easily when you are with someone on a date?

4. Do you feel that marriage is not necessary for you to be happy?

5. Are you annoyed when your relatives ask you why you are not involved with someone?

6. Are you intolerant of certain habits of a prospective partner?

7. Have you been living on your own most of your adult life?

8. Do you have a time limit as to how long a visitor can stay at your home before you feel tired of them in your space?

9. When you are in relationships, do you insist on still having our own place no matter how serious you get with the person?

10. Do you have periods when you just want to be by yourself, without any interruption?

If you have answered yes to 7 or more of the questions, you are a serial single. You like love but you sometimes feel trapped if things start happening faster than you like. We are taught that people should find a mate, settle down and make some babies. This brand of happiness is not for everyone, so don't feel bad if you are not interested in living that life. At the end of the day, take your happiness very seriously and be true to who you are and what you truly want. Have fun and stay sexy.

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Question

Dear Dr. Sexy,

I am totally confused, what do you do when you find the perfect man? I am sure he feels the same about me, but he lives with his girlfriend and their two kids. I feel like breaking it off because the feelings are getting stronger and I can't control it. Please let me hear what you think.

Brenda, Portmore

Dear Brenda,

Congratulations, I didn't think the perfect man existed but you found him. Wow. As to whether or not you should get involved with this man, I would say, you should examine your options. If you are with him, you will be sharing him with his girlfriend and children. Can you live with that? If you cannot, then you should move on.

Good luck and stay sexy,

Dr Sexy

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