Most of us are taught that a committed couple are supposed to sleep in the same bed each night. As a matter of fact, the 'marriage bed' is considered a sacred space for many couples. There are a few couples who are opting to have separate beds, even bedrooms and they say this decision has improved the level of intimacy in their relationships.

According to a new study at Toronto's Ryerson University, 30 to 40 per cent of couples sleep apart at nights. Colleen Carney, director of Ryerson's Sleep and Depression Laboratory, told the CBC, "People will say they sleep better [together], but when we actually monitor their brains we see that their brains are not getting into deeper stages of sleep because they're continuously being woken up by movement or sound."

This idea seems absolutely ridiculous to some persons because the idea of a couple sleeping in separate bedrooms usually indicates that there are problems in that relationship. The couples on the other hand, say that they experience benefits from sleeping apart:

1. Comfort Level - When each partner has their own comfort level - firmer mattress, colder room, allergies - sometimes it's hard to find something that both partners will like. Some men complain about cuddling because it's too hot.

2. Varied Schedules - Some partners are light sleepers and their sleep is disturbed when their spouse gets in from work or has to leave before they do.

3. Makes the Heart Grow Fonder - Having separate bedrooms allows for some space between partners and they get a chance to miss each other. Then they can spend time together again.

4. Likes Own Space - Even though persons become a part of a couple, they are still individuals and some will want their own space. Having separate bedrooms allow for individual expression when needed.

I know that this is a new idea for many persons and it just isn't something that will work for everyone. However, this is a concept that requires good communication and full cooperation from all parties involved. So ensure that you and your partner are open and honest with each other before you go get separate bedrooms. Have fun and stay sexy.

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Question

Dear Dr Sexy,

I don't think I've ever experienced an orgasm before. I'm not sure what to expect. How do you know when it happens?

Kenesha, Portmore

Dear Kenesha,

Your body quivers uncontrollably, you feel really tingly, you vagina starts to pulsate and you get goosebumps everywhere. For some women, the body gets very sensitive and they scream out loud. It's very explosive. If it happens, you will know. Hope you have one soon.

Stay Sexy.