I want to commend you for the good work that you are doing. I am 20 and my girlfriend is 17. She was introduced to me by her cousin. Her cousin and I had something going for two months but she went back to the country to live. I asked her when she was coming back to Kingston and she said it wouldn't be soon because she is now going to school in St. James. I told her that I love her cousin and she said she wouldn't feel anyway if the two of us became friends.

hard feelings

One day we were together and I told her cousin what she said and she did not believe me so I called the number and they talked. There were no hard feelings between them. So, this girl and I are together now for one year but I find myself still in love with her cousin. Sometimes I call her just to talk. Recently, I called her and she told me that she has a boyfriend now. I told her I was glad but I wasn't glad because I did not want to lose her.

My girlfriend and I have started to argue a lot. I did not know that I would miss her cousin so much and I am sorry for getting myself in this relationship. I would like to get out, so I told my present girlfriend how I feel and she wants to know if I am going the other way. I like my present girlfriend but her cousin was much nicer. What do you think I can do to get back my old girlfriend although she has another guy now?

G

Dear G,

You have already made your decision. You had a good girlfriend. Both of you got along very well. You felt that the distance was too great for both of you to continue to be friends so you asked her for permission to have a relationship with her cousin. Now you are regretting what you have done.

Evidently, you do not love her cousin as much as you love her and now that she has a boyfriend it is affecting you. I am going to suggest to you, sir, that you leave your former girlfriend alone. She is not interfering with you. Try to work with your present girlfriend and if you see that the relationship is not going anywhere, both of you should part amicably.

Pastor