I am a 20-year-old male and my girlfriend is 19. I think she has a problem. She wants to have sex all the time. I try to keep up with her but she is never satisfied. I am wondering if there is anything I can give her to drink to slow her down. I spoke to a man and he told me I should allow her to have sex with other guys, but I should tell her to tell the man to use the condom. I am thinking of it. It is either I do that or leave her because I can't keep up. If we are together for one day, she wants sex up to three times for the day. She is beautiful but sometimes when my penis is tired it doesn't stand up. I know I am normal but I don't think my girlfriend is.

One day after we had sex twice and she wanted more, I had to run from her. She told me she has been having sex from she was 14. I told her if she has been doing it for such a long time she shouldn't want so much of it now. She said she is normal. I am the one who is not.

She is my first girlfriend but she has had lots of guys, from what she told me, so I am asking you for your advice.

O.H

Dear O.H.,

I don't believe anything is wrong with you and believe your girlfriend is perfectly normal, too. You have not been able to keep up with her and she recognizes that. I would not encourage you to suggest she goes with other men who might be able to satisfy her. Both of you are young. She sees sex as just fun. It is recreation for her. If you are able to do it with her 20 times for the day, she will be up to it. She can experience multiple orgasms. You cannot ejaculate as often.

Both of you love each other, therefore, I suggest you make an appointment to see a family counsellor, or a sex therapist, who sould be able to make suggestions.

Pastor