I am a 46-year-old man. Eight years ago, my lawfully wedded wife told me that she needed a younger man, and moreover, I was too far away from her. A year after I asked her what's happening. She asked, "About what?" and I said "What is the situation with us?" She said it was time for me to move on.

I got involved with a 34-year-old young woman. Do you think I am making the wrong move? I need your guidance.

Confused Husband

Dear Confused Husband,

You are not telling me everything. Your woman wouldn't just tell you it's time for you to move on without a cause. You say that the woman said that she wanted a younger man but you did not give her age. You claim that she is far away but you didn't say where she is and where you are. Am I to understand that no effort was made for both of you to try and resolve your differences?

You did not say whether you went through with the divorce, but I suppose you have, because you are now with a different woman. Of course, I am aware that you could be living with a new woman and not divorced. If you are not yet divorced, then you probably should do so. But before you get married again you should seek professional help by going to see a family counsellor with your new woman for counselling. Try to ascertain the real reasons why your wife left you and what you can do to have a better relationship with this new woman.

Pastor