Dear Pastor,

Greetings to you in the mighty name of Jesus our soon coming King. I am 18 years old and I am doing fine. My girlfriend is 18 years old also. Her father is a man of the law and he does not want her to keep a boyfriend. He wants every young man to be afraid of him but I am not afraid of him. He wants his daughter to keep away from guys, but, pastor, she can't keep away from me. And it is too late for him to warn her about me because the horse has gone through the gate already.

She is the one who introduced me to sex and I was the second guy she had sex with. She was not a virgin when we had sex. We didn't do it at her house or where I live, we did it at her friend's house. I met her there and her friend was there too but her friend gave us our time. I was there when her father came and picked her up but he didn't know that his daughter had her man in the house.

Pastor, I love her and nobody will stop us. Sometimes when I don't have any money I rely on her to help me because her father gives her pocket money every week. I am wearing a watch that she bought for me from the money he gives her for pocket money. She saved some and bought me the watch for my birthday.

Her father is a very strict man. Her mother is cool. The mother spoils her because she still washes every piece of her clothes. I told my mother about her and my mother warned me and told me she doesn't want anything to happen to me so I better leave this man's daughter alone. I can't leave her alone, pastor, because I love her.

E.L

Dear E.L.,

Your mother is quite correct in warning you to be careful. This girl's father is overprotective. What he should be doing is to have a good relationship with his daughter and to teach her how to relate to men. She should be allowed to go out from time to time but that is not happening, so every chance this girl gets, she does what is wrong.

You better learn to keep your mouth shut. The very girl in whose house you had sex with your girlfriend might tell others and it might get to this girl's father. However, you are an adult and this girl is also an adult and no one should try to make decisions for you.

What I am prepared to do here so is to warn you to be careful. Don't go everywhere this girl wants you to go because she wants sex. You might get yourself into serious trouble.

Pastor