Dear Pastor,

I have a problem. I am 50 years old and I am living in my own apartment. I have a daughter who is 18 years old. She is attending university. She is an attractive young woman. She is not only my daughter but she is my friend and my confidante.

I am becoming very worried because she told me that my boyfriend made a pass at her. This man and I have been friends for two years and I have helped him a lot. He comes from a poor background but he has ambition. He has three children with two different women.

When we met he did not have any savings at all and I helped him to open a bank account and now he has some savings. He drives my car and picks up my daughter from school whenever she needs help. I didn't have to watch him. She never complained about him until now. My daughter said that she has seen him watching her in a funny way and saying little things that make her feel uneasy. I have not said anything to him but I have been watching him and I don't see him doing anything wrong.

I need this man around and if I were to tell him what my daughter said it may cause a breaking up between us. Please give me your advice.

R.S

Dear R.S.,

Your daughter does not have to be right. This man might have told her that she is looking lovely or he likes what she was wearing. That does not necessarily mean that he is making a pass at her or that he would love to get intimate with her. What you should continue to do is to be vigilant and if you were to suspect anything, you should have a quiet word with him. Otherwise, keep your mouth shut.

Pastor