Dear pastor

I am 75 years old and my friend died and left a 60-year-old widow. I go to her house sometimes to play cards and now the two of us are in love. I told my daughter with whom I am living that I would love to marry her. She wanted to know what I am going to do with this woman. I didn't want to disrespect my daughter by telling her that I have very strong erection. I eat well and I can manage any girl that age or even younger. Do you think that I am too old for sex and to get married?

E.G.

Dear E.G.

If you are in good health and you are feeling strong, you can get married. You don't even have to be very strong to consider marriage. No one should discourage you from getting married, if you believe that it is the right thing for you to do. On the other hand you should consider what your daughter has said to you. I am sure that she has reasons for discouraging from getting married. Perhaps you should talk to a family counsellor before you make a final decision.

Many children do not like their parents to remarry, because they believe that their new in-law will get the property that should be passed on to them. So it might be prudent for you to discuss this matter with your lawyer also.

Concerning the sex, your daughter is not aware that a man your age, and who is in good health, can have sex even when he is over 80 years old. So you are only 75 years old, you have a long way to go before you close up shop.

Pastor