Dear Pastor,

The woman I love has four children. I am the father of the fourth child. I trust her, but to an extent. She hasn't given me any reason not to trust her. I am 30 and earn $100,000 a month. It is not enough to support her kids and mine. She is hoping to get married to me. However, the situation is making me very worried. I am wondering if I will be doing the right thing. I want to move away from a promiscuous lifestyl.

C.J

Dear C.J.,

You say you trust this woman to an extent but she has not given you any reason not to trust her completely. Evidently, you love her very much because you knew that she had three children and yet you were willing to become involved with her.

You seem to be a trying man. You are doing your best to support your family. Though you did not say that your woman is not working, I gather that you are carrying the burden of the house alone.

You are a good man and you should not walk away from this woman. That would not be fair to her at all. What reason would you have for doing so? You couldn't say that you are leaving her because you are not the father of three of her children. I repeat, you would have known that before you became her man.

What I suggest, is that you encourage this lady to do something to help herself. She can do some buying and selling and perhaps have someone take care of the children during the days while she goes to work. I am not suggesting that it is going to be easy, but if both of you truly love each other, you can plan together and support each other in every way possible.

I thank you for contacting me. Try your best not to have any more children. Remember the three children that your woman had before she you met you her are, in a way, yours. Continue to take care of them and may God bless you, dear brother.

Pastor