Dear Pastor,

I am a regular reader of your column and I am having a problem. I am 21 and my girlfriend is 19. We have been together for two years. She got pregnant by me, but had an abortion because she said she wasn't ready for a child. I agreed to the abortion because I wasn't working at that time.

Now, I have a job. She got pregnant again, but she cheated on me with another guy. I know that the baby is mine. She told me so, but she doesn't want me to claim it because my money is small and the other guy can give her much more. She is living with her grandmother and I spoke to her grandmother about it and she told her grandmother that I am a fool because it is not my child and I am claiming another man's child.

At the same time, she is still asking me for money and is having sex with me. When I enquire her about the man, she told me she doesn't know where he is and mustn't talk about him when I am with her. The man bought her everything for the baby. She said that she is not going to tell him when the baby will be born because the baby might not look like him.

Pastor, I am confused. I don't know what to do, so give me your advice.

N.G.

Dear N.G.,

You are a very silly young man. You might get mad at me, but frankly, you are being foolish. Your girlfriend is not a good girl and you should be aware of that. She is with you and at the same time, is with another man because he makes more money than you. This is not a woman you should fight for. She told you that your money is small. She needs big money. The other man is willing to give her big money, so leave her alone. You shouldn't even accommodate her when she comes around.

You complained to her grandmother, but she told her grandmother that you don't have any sense, so what are you doing with a woman who considers you to be a fool? Wait until the child is born and do a DNA test to ascertain whether or not you are the father. Even if you are the father, I suggest you support the child, but leave this bad girl alone.

Pastor