Dear Pastor,

I am 19 and I am living with my boyfriend. He is 41. He takes good care of me. I don't need anything. Everything I tell him I want, he gets me.

My friends can come to see me and sleep over but, when it comes to going out, he doesn't want me to go and enjoy myself.

That is what I can't stand with him. He told me he does not believe I would cheat on him, but the world wants girls like me, and he is fortunate to have me and it must stay that way.

When my friends invite me

out, he takes me and picks me up or he stays in his car, but not on the spot where people can see him.

I would like him to trust me. This man took me in when I got pregnant, but I lost the baby. He has five children. He doesn't believe in marriage, but I wouldn't marry him unless he fixes up himself.

He doesn't have front teeth. He had dentures which broke, and he should get a new set. He likes to have oral sex and said it is better without his teeth.

I don't know how to get him to let me go out without him watching me. Since I am living with him, I have never cheated on him.

V.A

Dear V.A.,

Ask this man to help you to

go back to school. You are living with him but you need to have an education. Perhaps you should consider

learning a skill. Have you ever considered going to Heart Trust/NTA? Perhaps you should contact them after you have decided what you like to study. If this man loves you, he should not object to helping you get some training.

It is not going to be easy for you to get him to allow you to go out on your own. What he needs to understand, however, is that he should not fear that you will cheat, because he is treating you well and you love and respect him.

Some men do not like their women's friends to come to their homes and stay over so although this man has his faults, he gives you certain privileges that other girls do not have.

He is much older than you. I have said, many times, that older men are generally, jealous, so don't allow that to get you down.

Pastor