Dear Pastor,

I enjoy listening to your programmes at nights and always read your section in the Star.

I have a problem. I am a 50-year-old farmer. I am not married but have a lady friend. she lives with her man. He and I are good friends. He said he cannot 'manage' her, so we have a little agreement among ourselves that I would have sex with her but he would continue to live with her. She comes to my house and helps me out.

My two children are living with me. She washes for all of us and cleans the house.

I give her $5,000, every week, for helping out. Whenever we want to have sex, we do it. The man she lives with knows but I want to stop now because I am going to church. She does not want us to stop, so what should I do?

E.M.

Dear E.M.,

You did not say why your friend is not having sexual intercourse with this woman. I suspect he might be suffering from some sort of erectile dysfunction. Therefore, you have this rather unusual agreement. You are not selling sex, you are only facilitating.

I am glad you have started church and would like to end the arrangement ade with this woman and her man.

you should tell her you cannot continue this lifestyle. tell your friend you cannot 'help him out' any longer because you are under conviction. You should also encourage him to seek medical attention and follow the doctor's advice.

Pastor