Dear Pastor,

Greetings in the mighty name of the Lord. I am a 31-year-old woman. I lived with my child's father for five years. My daughter is nine. We were having simple issues, like other couples do, so he decided to move out.

A few months after we parted in 2013, I heard that he got married to a lady in the United States. The wedding took place in Jamaica. Since then, he has not travelled. Is this woman using him or what?

Pastor, something really looks fishy. I have moved on with my life. I am doing a pharmacy- technician course and trying to focus on myself and my daughter. This man is trying to get back with me after he and his family deceived, betrayed, manipulated, and humiliated me.

He is not being truthful about the relationship with his wife. He is pretending like everything is OK. He is telling me that he is a changed person. If he is happily married, why is he telling me these things - that he has changed and will be a better man?

Our daughter fell ill. He came by my house to look for her. I had a refrigerator that was not working properly, so he bought me a new one. He also bought a microwave and a fan, which we didn't have when we were living together for five years.

I don't want to start a relationship with him now that he is married. There is nothing in that relationship for me. He calls me every night. Sometimes I ignore him. because he hurt me so much, whenever I look at him, it seems as if I can't forgive him, but I have. I prayed to the Lord to let go of resentment and asked him to have His way with the situation.

Pastor, I need your advice. What should I do?

A.S

Dear A.S.,

I suggest you continue to pray that God will remove all hatred and resentment of this man and that the Lord will help you to continue to forgive him for the way he treated you. It appears he wants to rekindle the intimate relationship you had. Let him know that you are not willing to be intimate with him, however, you expect him to financially support his daughter. Tell him you have accepted the refrigerator, the microwave, and the fan because your daughter needs them.

You ought not to question him about his relationship with his wife. Perhaps his wife has filed for him, but the process is slow.

Some women pretend that you do not want your former lovers, but you say one thing and do the other. I hope you are not talking from both sides of your mouth. If you don't want this man back in your life, tell him so and mean it.

Pastor