Dear Pastor,

I am a regular reader of your column and want to commend you for the good work.

I am 19. I am pregnant. I am not sure who to give this child to because I am having sex with my boss and I have a boyfriend.

Neither of them uses a condom with me. I told my boyfriend I didn't want to get pregnant, so every time we have sex, he pulls out.

My boss doesn't pull out. He told me he can't get anybody pregnant because he had a vasectomy. He has three grown children. I like having sex with him because it feels better when he is ejaculating in me and sometimes we come together.

When I did not see my period, I spoke to my boss. He told me that I should know what to do. I told him I would do it. I don't want to throw away the pregnancy. I haven't told my boyfriend. I am two months' pregnant, but I am fat, so it's not showing as yet. I don't know what to do. Please help me to make a decision.

Dear G.L.,

Tell your boyfriend you are pregnant. He has been practising the withdrawal method, which is not safe.

Your boss said he did the vasectomy operation so he cannot get you pregnant. If he is speaking the truth, then it is likely that it is your boyfriend who got you pregnant. I repeat: that is if he is speaking the truth.

I cannot encourage you to have an abortion,so please, make plans to have your child and please stick with your boyfriend. Your boss doesn't care what happens to you. you should think seriously about your future. If your boyfriend does not accept the child, you may have to consider doing a DNA test when the child is born to determine who the father is.

Pastor